Relief in the Form of an Old Flame

 What an unexpected but amazing turn! She reconnected with someone she has known for a long time and simply didn't know how to tell me what had happened. Obviously I am sad for this turn of events as I was really looking forward to getting to know her better but I am utterly ecstatic that she actually told me what happened and my confusion has been totally quelled! I am now totally convinced that confusion might be the thing that most affects me emotionally out of anything I experience in the dating realm. Well, loss and confusion combined, I suppose. It was a bizarrely disturbing experience.

Now I feel totally unburdened by the weight of my apathetic melancholy. It's a pretty awesome feeling, really. Life resumes as it always has and I look forward to what the fates have in store for me again.

An odd bit of depressive hangover.

 I slept somewhat fitfully, I think, and the strangeness of my dream(which I'd rather not go into right now) actually woke me up about an hour before my alarm. The subject matter of the dream seems totally unrelated to my recent emotional disturbance so it was a bizarre way to kick things off for the day.

I got to my work, did the things I needed to, and even felt somewhat productive throughout the day but it all came under the unusual(for me) emotional note of general apathy and a somewhat somber mood. I still feel it, even now. Like a dull, listless humdrum has blanketed my being. It's a very weird feeling to me, truly quite foreign I have to say. In the past, I have typically slept off almost any of the feelings I expressed in my ramblings yesterday. Maybe this event has stung me deeper or in a different way than I have realized. Maybe just being older and going through it has added a different layer. Maybe I need something else to really heal from this properly. I have been ghosted before but maybe the lack of closure this time is something different? I know I am not truly apathetic to what has happened(why would I be compelled to write anything here in the first place?) but I do have a certain feeling permeating within me right now and it definitely has that apathetic feeling to it... or maybe it's just a pathetic feeling?(word play still in tact, I suppose.)

I guess I'll see if I sleep it off tonight. I have another early work day tomorrow. Should be decent. Maybe things can get straightened out in my brain and heart by then. Or, if not both of them, maybe one of them can find a bit of peace? That would really be nice.

The filled life deflated by a single action.

 I am not good at finding my person in life. The one I can truly share my life with. The one I can one day grow older with. The one, it seems, who doesn't actually exist.

I often write here as a catharsis to alleviate or transform my emotional state where possible. I am obviously feeling the sting of rejection once again and despite its general prevalence in my life it never feels any less disparaging.

In this case... I think it feels worse than normal for a couple main reasons(as well as several smaller reasons I probably won't explore very much.) Reason number one is that I was beginning to raise my expectations and hopes about where it could lead. We have not even talked on the phone but things were moving and progressing little by little and seemed to be headed the right direction. I know I am a very slow mover but our life situations seemed to necessitate slow moving anyway and it is possible it was again too slow for her. I only say "possible" because I am forced to speculate... leading me to reason number two... I was "ghosted" by this woman. Possibly the worst of all possible ways to break anything off. Literally the last communication from her was a "loved your video" response to a video I recently made that I sent her the link to. The video was essentially just a super simple piece of artwork that I put together that I thought she might enjoy. So, what am I supposed to think happened between that response and zero responses after? It is so utterly confusing to me that it depresses me quite a bit. Enough that it inspires me to vent here. It feels childish doing this, in some ways, but I know there is some wisdom in expressing painful emotions and I hope that by doing it here there is also something positive that can spin its way out of it all. Questions like "What went wrong?" and "Could I have done something different to invert this outcome?" are naturally driving my thoughts and emotions at the moment. They seem impenetrable and essentially impossible to answer without having any real feedback from her. This is the nature and pain of the "ghosting" experience. Instead, some more productive questions should now arise... what do I do to improve myself because of this? What do I need to change about myself that will inspire someone in the future to take that chance on me to truly develop that real connection we both mutually seek? Honestly they basically feel redundant to me, though. I have essentially spent my entire adult life trying to improve myself to become the kind of person someone would want in their life. I know I have many flaws but I know I have many strengths, finely developed and improved over many years. I have so much to offer... and nobody I am genuinely attracted to has yet given me the chance. What a silly vicious circle. What an unnecessarily long, probably annoying to read paragraph. Ha.

Things are going quite well in life beyond all of this. It's really quite bizarre how good everything else can be going yet it can all feel so worthless when exposed to this sort of thing. My logic says I'm still in great shape, that I have only good things to look forward to, so that's at least a little comforting. I don't know when I should start looking again but I really don't like this feeling. I don't even know if I should attempt to control these emotions or if I should just continue pretending they don't affect me... or neither?

I will say that I truly believe I was written off without being given a thorough chance. It somewhat inspires me to put something like a youtube channel together just for easy access to my personality. I know I have so much to offer and I think it all simply gets overlooked. What a waste.